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I have a lot of friends getting married. I also have a lot of friend getting divorced. They ask me what it’s like to be single, to live alone… Here goes:
The Pros:
It’s great. It’s everything you imagined about being autonomous. It’s always about you and your choices. Just remember not to become so selfish that you forget what others want and need (Sometimes, I’m guilty of this).
You can work or stay out as late as you want. You can walk around your house naked and no one will say a word. You can eat (or drink) whatever you want, whenever you want with no nagging.
Want to go to the movies? Go. Want to take a take a quick ski trip? No problem.
The Cons:
On really great days, you don’t have a built in person to come home and celebrate with. However, there’s always a friend or coworker who’s willing and ready to celebrate your good fortune with you.
But, then there’s the really bad days. On those days, there’s no one to come home to either. There’s no one to hug you or or get drunk with or hold you til you fall asleep. You learn a different “strength” in order to hold yourself.
Yes, every once in awhile, the eerily silent nights get to you. No amount of going out changes that, in fact, it makes it worse. It’s like being alone in a crowded room. But, again, you’ll learn a new “strength” to handle the eerie nights beautifully.
And every once in a blue moon, you’ll yearn to be held so badly that it will take every muscle in your body to make it through the night alone. Then, if you’re lucky, you’ll spend a day at the park (or wherever) with kids and you’ll know… everything’s gonna be alright.
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